Self-care

Your business grows + You grow. But what about your nearests and dearests?

 
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Working with entrepreneurs, I'm privy to how much people grow as their business grows. I've grown and changed, too.

I'm less tolerant of things I would have allowed before, more patient with things I would have rushed, and tons more careful about how I spend my time, mostly. Part of that must also be that I'm fifty freakin' five. But whatever. Cha cha cha changes...

This growth and self-awareness stuff is all good until it starts creating issues with your nearests and dearests.

Sometimes the people closest to you aren't comfortable with your growth and desire to be the best that you can be. Not because they don't want the best for you, of course they do, but because they've just not grown at the same pace or in the same way as you have.

It's not their intention to hold you back. They're there cheering for you, helping you out, picking up the slack when you're knee-deep in your biz.

You're the one holding back. That's what you're doing when you're not saying what needs to be said, not asking for what you really need, not expressing how your perspective on things have changed.

When you hold back, you're not being honest and the other person can sense it. They wonder what's up and when they don't know, they'll fill in the blanks with the worst their imagination can cook up. And then they start acting weird and needy and then... yeah, it can easily go off the rails.

This isn't about ugly confrontations, ultimatums and blowing up your cherished relationships. Far from it. This is about trusting yourself and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in your new form.

Before you outgrow someone you care about, share where you're at. At least that way they can be inspired by you and at the very least they can meet you where you are now, even if only in small ways.

Shine your light and lead the way with love and compassion. It's safer than sitting there frustrated beyond, swallowing all kinds of colourful f's and u's.